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Evidence to be made public – An interview with Trista

13 Oct

There was a comment recently by mckeekitty with a suggestion for a post…

Mckeekitty said…

MM, Lee and Dee…thank you for the open invitation to submit a post.

I respectfully submit this as a post for your consideration. I think those interested in SA will also find it interesting: fearful-that-investigation-will-go-cold-mother-of-missing-toddler-ayla-reynolds-set-to-make-evidence-public

WESTBROOK, Maine — It is said that grief fades with time,trista bdn 2 but 21 months after her daughter disappeared, Trista Reynolds isn’t so sure.

Since January, when state police showed Reynolds photos of a bloody crime scene, the most vivid images Reynolds has of her daughter, Ayla Reynolds, are spattered blood.

“It literally looked like a murder scene to me,” Reynolds said Tuesday. “I think just seeing her blood makes me wonder how much she suffered.”

In Reynolds’ nightmares — when they’re not about the blood-spattered basement in Waterville where Ayla allegedly spent her final hours — decades will go by without the case being solved.

For the past nine months, Reynolds has avoided the media, but the prospect of the case going cold has prompted her to again step into the spotlight. Next week, she plans to share evidence shown to her by investigators in hopes of putting pressure on one of the three adults who police say were with Ayla when she disappeared on Dec. 17, 2011: Ayla’s father, Justin DiPietro, his sister, Elisha DiPietro, and his girlfriend, Courtney Roberts. But Reynolds says she knows the truth.

“Justin, Elisha and Courtney are still walking the streets like nothing has happened,” said Reynolds. “After seeing [the evidence], it has started to settle in my mind that Ayla more than likely really is deceased and not coming back. I’m not just able to close my eyes and not see her blood.”

Reynolds said her relationship with investigators has deteriorated in recent months and that she last spoke with them two weeks ago. After months of weekly contact, they rarely call. She doesn’t know whether her planned release of new information will compromise the case, but at this point, she said, she doesn’t care.

“I’m hoping by releasing it, it will get the ball rolling on someone being prosecuted,” said Reynolds.

“We’ve done our best to keep her in the loop and will continue to do so,” Maine Department of Public Safety spokesman Stephen McCausland said Tuesday. The investigation into Ayla’s disappearance is ongoing, he said, adding that investigators have “no reaction” to Reynolds releasing evidence to the media.

Reynolds said the evidence, most notably the photographs of blood, make her speculate about her daughter’s last moments, even though she tries to avoid it.

DiPietro, who has never granted an interview to the Bangor Daily News, maintains his innocence. He told police after Ayla disappeared that she was abducted. Police have disputed that claim and said consistently that DiPietro, his sister and girlfriend know more about Ayla’s disappearance than they are sharing. In January 2012, investigators confirmed that they had found Ayla’s blood in DiPietro’s Waterville home and said that no one has been ruled out as a suspect in the toddler’s disappearance.

When police said in May 2012 that they thought it was “highly unlikely” that Ayla is alive,    Reynolds said she thought about arranging a funeral, but didn’t.

“I can’t go and put something on for Ayla knowing I don’t have her body,” she said. “I want to be able to bury her the right way so at least when I go and visit her, I’m not just visiting something empty.”

With school starting this month, each day Reynolds is reminded of all the things she will never be able to do with her daughter.

“I’ve heard stories from moms who say that taking their daughter to school the first day and all they did was bawl their eyes out,” she said. “They were happy because they got to dress her up, do [her] hair and make her all pretty. I don’t get to do any of that.”

Trista BDNHowever, there is some new joy in Reynolds’ life. Last month she gave birth to a baby boy, Anthony. Her days are filled with caring for the infant and her older son, 2-year-old Raymond. The question that haunts her is what she’ll tell them about Ayla, someday when they can understand. Raymond is already asking questions.

“He’s starting to know that he does have a sister but she’s just not at home,” she said. “What do you say to a 2½-year-old when they ask where their big sister is? That breaks my heart a lot. I can’t explain to him that sissy is out there but she’s just not at home with us. … I just don’t want him to think I’m just not going to let him know or not talk about her.”

Reynolds dreads the day she encounters Roberts or someone from the DiPietro family.

“When I think about it, I think I would just walk away from them because it hurts when I ask the same questions that I’ve been asking for almost two years and never get a new answer,” she said. “I don’t want this anymore. I want Ayla to be able to be home, right here with me.”

I’m not sure what Mckee is seeing in this article that sticks out to her, maybe she’ll let us know. 

I see a woman who has had the rug pulled out from under her and her world turned upside down.  I see a mother without her daughter and she doesn’t know why.  I get the feeling that Trista regrets demanding to see the evidence shown to the DiPietro’s.  Now she’s stuck with those images and can’t get them out of her head.  The possibilities of what happened to Ayla and where she could be is the stuff nightmares are made of.   I see someone torn between wanting to keep Ayla in the heart of Ray but because of his age, not being able to explain to him what happened and why she can’t come home.  I see someone tired of banging her head against that same brick wall that, no matter how hard she tries, never cracks.

I’m not going to publically do Statement Analysis on Trista’s comments.  It has been pointed out to us time and again that although I may be a student, I am not an expert (I have never claimed to be) and besides, SA is “quackery”.  The only thing I will say is although I see sensitivity in some statements, I do not see deception.

What is it you take away from this article?

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51 responses to “Evidence to be made public – An interview with Trista

  1. mountain mama

    October 13, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    Thank you Dee. I hope McKee will point out what she wants us to see.

     
  2. mckeekitty

    October 13, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    My apologies, MM. I wasn’t referring to the article…I was referring to Trista’s video that was embedded in the article. This link might work better. If not, you can find the video I’m referring to with a Google search “Fearful that investigation will go cold” It should bring up the article AND video.

    http://bangordailynews.com/2013/09/17/news/portland/fearful-that-investigation-will-go-cold-mother-of-missing-toddler-ayla-reynolds-set-to-make-evidence-public/

     
    • mountain mama

      October 13, 2014 at 5:36 pm

      Ah…the video. Are you suspicious of Trista smiling?

       
  3. Karen

    October 13, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    I don’t think it is real smiling. She seems very upset thinking about the pictures she saw to me. She seems to have difficultly speaking about it. Then later in the interview she seems angry and sad.

     
    • mountain mama

      October 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Does everyone remember the pic of Phoebe holding the “missing Ayla” flyer? A lot of people complained because she was smiling. Both Phoebe and Trista were nervous. Both Phoebe and Trista were facing the interviewer/reporter. Do you think the reporters were scowling or frowning at them? No doubt in both situations the reporters were smiling with sympathy and compassion while trying to help ease Trista’s and Phoebe’s nerves. I think it was an emotionally awkward situation for both Trista and Phoebe and their smiles were merely bewildered responses to the smiles of the reporters.

       
      • Lee

        October 13, 2014 at 6:45 pm

        I was getting ready to mention that myself. I agree. It doesn’t matter if you dislike either one of them, I don’t believe you can hold this against them.

        I was once left with a terminally ill man who suddenly took a turn for the worst (it was a family member of MM’s, and she and his wife had ran out of the room to get his medications and breathing apparatus). I am pretty sure I had something like a smile on my face as I was trying to be calm and reassuring. The last thing he saw as he settled back, struggling to breath, slipping into a coma like state was my somewhat smiling face. It was very out of place. Sometimes you just don’t know what to do with your expression.

         
      • msperidot19

        October 13, 2014 at 7:33 pm

        mama and Lee, Very good points. Truly how can anyone be prepared for this.

         
  4. msperidot19

    October 13, 2014 at 5:57 pm

    Dee, thank you for posting the article for us and sharing your own thoughts. Your words are kind, compassionate and powerful.

    It is a challenge to get through this article.

     
  5. msperidot19

    October 13, 2014 at 6:11 pm

    It is simply that Trista is one of those people who’s grimace muscles are somewhat similar to her smile muscles. You might not realize this when you first see her upset or very upset. But I believe most adults can figure this out quickly and read her emotions. It is called using our reasoning skills. Add in context and you have got it. Pretty simple really.

     
  6. A1

    October 13, 2014 at 10:08 pm

    I’m not sure what Mckeekitty wants people to see or not see in the video.

    I know what I see and hear. I see a Trista who is not very confident about what she is saying and expressing.
    I see an extremely nervous Trista, who smiles, has a sideways glance, is looking down, and struggles for words. Her demeanor seems very off and odd.
    I’m not sure what it means, if anything, it’s just what I see.

    Besides Trista’s demeanor, a few other things I found ..? odd I guess, were a few of Trista’s statements. For example, she hoped that Justin did his part, and cared enough to be by her side and not make her go through whatever happened that night by herself.
    Also, I want Ayla to know that if she is out there and gets a glimpse of all this, that I haven’t forgotten, and I’m not giving up, I’m still right here.

    The covered baby in the video also appears odd to me. It just doesn’t “look” like a month oldbaby to me. Nor do I understand the need to have the baby in the video. PR maybe?

     
    • Anonymous

      October 14, 2014 at 8:57 am

      A1 listen again- I’m pretty sure Trista say “up there” as in Heaven. What she says about Justin makes sense to me. Whether Justin (or someone else) did something to hurt Ayla or whether she had some sort of independent accident, she was a baby in need of comfort and I think what Trista is saying is she hopes Justin provided some comfort to Ayla. Even if he hurt her in a fit of anger, he could have felt guilty and sorry and done so.

      What I find awkward about this video is all the splicing. It makes it hard to get a feel for the overall emotional circumstances and the context. Was an interviewer asking questions at any point that got cut from the video?

       
    • msperidot19

      October 14, 2014 at 4:04 pm

      A1, what I see is Trista doing her best to remember to say what she feels is most important to get across to us. This was a important opportunity to express something terrible happen to Ayla. And Trista is telling us what she thinks and feels. Personally I believe she was trying very hard to hold it together. She does get very emotional and starts to really cry. It looks to me that is what they cut out.

       
  7. Pennyauntie

    October 14, 2014 at 11:15 am

    If one believes that Ayla is alive, it is an easy step for that person to also believe that Trista may be involved in abducting her. Custodial dispute and all that, plus, the blame game applied to the ex..

    I’m not saying that all of those who believe Ayla is alive automatically assume Trista has hidden her. No, but it seems to account for much of the suspicion still strong in some quarters about Trista.

    Everything she says and does is watched and examined with intense suspicion and much hostility. Not much understanding of
    her lack of education,
    chaotic family background,
    addiction problems,
    weak partner support
    and her emotional state at losing Ayla
    are factored in as casuses in her sometimes awkward attitude and inconsistant, contradictory (“lying”) statements.

    Much suspicion about her alibi on the supposed “night/morning in question” is still being expressed.

    No amount of LE benign statements concerning Trista are taken at their simple words. The words are parsed and examined and found wanting for any believability. The police have not “cleared” anybody in Ayla’s disappearance. That means to some that Trista is a viable candidate for the role of abductor.

    Why few of those believing Ayla is alive do not follow their belief by exerting an equal level of their suspicions on members of the DiPietro enclave, from whom she vanished, I cannot say for sure.

    One reason may be that, if the true believers ignore the blood and the LE assessment that “no abduction took place”, “the three in the house are not telling the truty”, then it is indeed hard to maintain a belief that Ayla is still alive.

    Then, one would have to consider some other possibilities for Ayla vanishing. These other considerations appear to be less comforting, or even abhorrent to those that believe Ayla is doing just fine. I don’t have to enumerate some other possibilities. If a person researches missing children cases, that is.

     
    • Anonymous

      October 14, 2014 at 12:47 pm

      Misogyny in the form of women cattily judging other women is a large factor IMO.
      “Trista has 3 kids by 3 fathers” — rarely, “Justin has 3 kids by 3 mothers” and no recognition that Trista at least wanted and tried to create a family with the fathers of her children

      Just one example. Plenty more exist.

       
      • Anonymous

        October 14, 2014 at 2:45 pm

        Anon, excellent point. Trista’s lifestyle at so- called taxpayer’s expense is often mentioned , but any of the people connected to Violette Ave are mostly free of any such comments as ” living off the state”.

        We have read that Phoebe was on state support for her three out of wedlock children and lived in the projects. Elisha is receiving some sort of education and work funded by a state program. Justin is assumed to have been on some sort of state aid. Courtney? She also had a child as a single mom and probably received assistance from the taxpayers.

        I’ve read comments in the Maine papers from men who say Trista is the ultimate blame for what happened to Ayla because she had to give Ayla away because of going to rehab !

         
      • Anonymous

        October 14, 2014 at 6:59 pm

        Does anyone know if Jeff is the daddy of this last child or someone else?

         
        • Lee

          October 14, 2014 at 7:06 pm

          That’s pretty sick ANON. You can take that talk to another blog, it’s not wanted here.

           
        • Anonymous

          October 14, 2014 at 7:11 pm

          Its only a question they were talking about 3 different fathers, isn’t that sick?

           
        • Lee

          October 14, 2014 at 7:19 pm

          You are the one who is asking if the ex-stepfather is the father of her child, and that is knowing that Alex is the acknowledged father.

           
        • Dee

          October 14, 2014 at 7:27 pm

          3 different fathers, 3 different mothers… unfortunately, whether you agree morally or not, it happens a lot.
          What you have implied is a completely different subject and is way out of line. Take your sick thoughts elsewhere.

           
        • Anonymous

          October 14, 2014 at 7:42 pm

          The reality is that only 10 percent of child molesters are strangers to those they abuse (6 percent for children under 6 years old). About 30 to 40 percent are family friends or trusted adults. Typical child sex abusers — 50 to 60 percent — are fathers, stepfathers, uncles, grandfathers, and brothers. (The percentage of women who sexually abuse children is low.)

           
        • Lee

          October 14, 2014 at 7:52 pm

          We’re not talking about child molestation.

           
        • mountain mama

          October 14, 2014 at 7:52 pm

          WTH are you talking about Anon? In regards to what? Trista is not a child. This discussion needs to end.

           
        • Dee

          October 14, 2014 at 7:56 pm

          That is probably a true statistic but it has nothing to do with this case. This is about Ayla. I don’t know your purpose in asking such an outlandish question, but I can guess. Go be bored somewhere else.

           
        • Pennyauntie

          October 14, 2014 at 8:03 pm

          Pretend to be a new follower of the case and don’t know nothin’ ’bout nothin’. “Starting fires.”

           
        • Anonymous

          October 14, 2014 at 8:54 pm

          Anon, commenting anonymously is a privilege some of us enjoy because we want our words and thoughts to be judged solely on their own merit. When that privilege it abused, it puts all of us at risk to be forced into choosing a user name. With that in mind, would you mind not acting like an ass going forward? Thanks!

           
  8. Anna

    October 14, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    I was really hoping when Trista released the evidence there would have been a lot more media coverage, renewed interest in the case, and more LE statements. I wonder if there is even a small nugget of information the LE could put out just to renew public interest in the search for Ayla? I am so sad to see Ayla, Kyron, Lisa, Sky, and many other missing children being forgotten.

     
  9. Anonymous

    October 14, 2014 at 3:07 pm

    Kyron’s mother is still working so hard to keep Kyron in the news. Sky ‘s father.? Not lately. Lisa’s parents let their lawyer do the talking, but he has been silent for months.
    Trista actually worked for a long time on keeping Ayla in the news.
    Why didn’t the DiPietros and CR join forces with Trista to find Ayla? Hurt feelings? Personality conflicts? Couldn’t work with a woman they hated, even for Justin’s child?
    Answer: none of the above.

     
  10. msperidot19

    October 14, 2014 at 6:08 pm

    Sometimes I wonder if it would be helpful for Trista to talk to Desiree? Or for Desiree to be able to talk to Trista? On a mother to mother basis.

     
    • Pennyauntie

      October 14, 2014 at 8:05 pm

      I’m sure Courtney would be able to fill in, mom to mom, if Desiree’ is busy.

       
      • mountain mama

        October 14, 2014 at 8:11 pm

        Na Courtney’s too busy. I do think Trista and Desiree have suffered in similar ways, not only in the loss of their child but being the victims of vicious attacks on their characters.

         
        • msperidot19

          October 14, 2014 at 8:39 pm

          I agree. And they both experienced such an ultimate betrayal by people they should have been able to trust.

           
    • msperidot19

      October 14, 2014 at 8:20 pm

      I don’t know what to say about what Holly went through. I am so sorry for Holly and for her family. I hope if there is legal justice for Holly that provides some comfort to her family.

       
  11. Anonymous

    October 14, 2014 at 11:18 pm

    OT- this is terrible. This lady gets weekdays off while sentenced to jail to take care of her bio kids when she is supposed to be in jail for abusing her adopted kids. http://news.yahoo.com/pennsylvania-mother-jailed-abuse-case-allowed-home-children-221252230.html

     
    • Dee

      October 15, 2014 at 7:00 am

      What a miscarriage of justice. The husband was an ADA, now resigned. Smh.

       
    • msperidot19

      October 15, 2014 at 2:20 pm

      Brain damage of a child you adopted and she gets only a year? And he gets no time at all?

      So arrogant too! Apparently they thought there would be no consequences to how they treated those two children? I guess they were right. Is this even a slap on the wrist?

      She is a proven violent and dangerous person to children and her sentence is modified so she can take care of her biological kids 6 days a week. Instead of taking the children away from a known violent person she gets a modified sentence to continue to take care of them? At a minimun I bet her bio kids saw what was going on. Great home life. I wonder how they have been effected. I hope they will be alright.

       
    • mountain mama

      October 15, 2014 at 2:44 pm

      Unbelievable and definitely unacceptable.

       
  12. Anonymous

    October 15, 2014 at 4:17 pm

    Really bothers me that every parent of underage children going to prison is in the same boat. Why is this woman being given special treatment? There may be some nonviolent crimes where it would make sense to let a person care for their kids while serving a sentence but this isn’t that situation.

     
    • mountain mama

      October 15, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      These biological kids should have Guardians Ad Litem.

      http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Guardian+Ad+Litem

       
    • msperidot19

      October 16, 2014 at 2:15 am

      No, this isn’t that situation. I wonder how much time she would have gotten if she had hurt a non family person? If she had caused brain damaged to a child who was not related to her legally, would she have gotten more time to serve? What if she had been so violent to a biological child? Same amount of time? I wonder how much time she would have gotten if she had hurt another adult?

       
    • Pennyauntie

      October 16, 2014 at 4:32 pm

      What were they background checks on this adoptive “mother” before the adoption?

       
  13. Karen

    October 15, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    http://www.wkrn.com/story/26795829/charges-dropped-against-2-suspects-in-holly-bobo-case

    It makes me ill to think about what Holly must have gone through that day. Or how ever long.
    I wonder if these two made a deal.

     
    • mountain mama

      October 15, 2014 at 11:03 pm

      It sounds like a good possibility Karen. I hope for Holly’s sake, it wasn’t very long.

       
    • Dee

      October 16, 2014 at 10:49 am

      Thank you for the reminder – candles lit.

       
    • mountain mama

      October 16, 2014 at 7:55 pm

      Another child who didn’t stand a chance. I hope her sister has been placed in a home where she will be loved and protected.

       

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